In Search Of My Identity…

What would you tell I someone would ask you about your heritage and nationality? For most, it is a simple question, but for others, like me, there is a full story to be told, or to be more specific, an article to be written.

I remember as a kid I never asked myself what is my heritage; nonetheless, it wasn´t something that my friends would talk about. At that age, we see each other as human beings. What a nice thing, isn’t it?


It wasn’t until I was about fourteen that it hit me hard. What was I? I remember that it started when I was hanging out with some friends while visiting Israel. We got up to a point in the conversation were everyone was mentioning their heritage. I really didn’t know what to say, so I just told the ones that I remember my parents would mention some times. I am Bulgarian and half Iranian- I said. Everyone looked at me as if I said some kind of sorcery or something. What did I said that made them react like this? I guess that being Iranian and Bulgarian isn’t cool…

After that experience, my interest to learn about my roots emerged. I really wanted to know where my ancestors came from. I always tell everybody that I am Israeli, which in fact I am. But as a person that comes from a family of immigrants, I needed to acknowledge my heritage to understand better what I am. So after talking with family members and researching a little, So long story short, I got into the conclusion that I was part Iranian, Persian, Iraqi, Algerian or Moroccan, and Bulgarian. I am really proud about it, regardless about what other people may think.

Knowing my heritage confused me. I always considered myself as white, but suddenly I faced a new reality, a reality were I was just one forth white. As a kid in Israel, I grew with mostly European people (as I can remember). My two best friends in first grade were British and Russian. I basically grew in a really white environment. While living in Beijing, people wanted to take a picture with me just because I looked white. And to be honest, I looked white.

Throughout the years I’ve learned to stop labeling myself for my own sanity. But after stopping labeling my heritage, I got another question to be answered: “What nationality I consider myself the most?” My sanity had to be set apart for the quest of finding my nationality; what I thought to be my identity. To start, I can’t consider myself a hundred percent Israeli. I have been living in Mexico most of my life and I have lived in China for four years. I just realized that I’ve lived more time abroad than in Israel, the country were I was born and were my family came from. I will also won’t serve in the army, which makes me feel less of an Israeli.

After living that much time in Mexico, friends started asking me when am I going to start my nationalization process. I never know how to answer it. What can I say to them, that I don’t feel Mexican enough to put-on-paper this identity? This makes me feel like not having a nationality whatsoever, but that would be too easy! The world doesn’t work like that. Living in a world with no nationalities is far too utopic to happen, so back to reality.


I think that in my case, neither my heritage nor my nationality does completely represent my identity. I’ve embraced the culture of my heritage and the beautiful places that I’ ve lived in; I can’t just fixate in just one. The answer for my heritage might have been already solved, but my national identity is still unknown; I don’t feel completely Israeli, nor Mexican, and even Chinese, so the answer to this might be far ahead or even non-existent. But at the end of the day the thing that I am sure about my identity is that I am a person who wants to know more about himself and about his surroundings. A person that has a message to share, the search for his identity.


15 thoughts on “In Search Of My Identity…

    • I am so happy to hear your experience! It’s really weird that you feel alone in some situations, but when you open it to the Internet, you see more people who had experience the same things as me. I really think that we are citizens of the world.
      Thank you for your wonderful comment

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  1. A very interesting post and I can relate to what you are feeling. Going back many generations in my own family most members married someone from a different country and I have done the same. Perhaps we are simply citizens of the world :o)

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  2. I think the search for identity with nationality is doomed from the outset.
    Like your intro, I never cared for nationality like any kid despite my parents staunchly patriotic ways. Kids don’t see that until they are either forced to be patriotic or latch on to it.
    I travelled the world extensively, and despite my parents never give a dam for patriotism. Land is land. Borders are invisible.
    No country gave me a sense of identity. I had to forge my own from each experience.
    Cheers for dropping by the blog btw.

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  3. Born to an English father and a Norwegian mother I can understand to a great extent even though my lineage is nowhere near as varied as yours.

    My paternal grandmother was born on Vancouver Island in 1872, and I have the suspicion there might have been some Native American blood there. There’s the crude small totem she and her mother brought to England at the turn of the last century. Having dealt in various tribal artefacts, in my view, it doesn’t resemble the sort of thing made for the commercial market being produced in that part of the world at that time. That suggests there might have been a sentimental attachment that had something to do with family heritage. I will probably never know for sure as I never knew her. My great grandmother, my grandmother and her eldest daughter perished in the meningitis epidemic of 1923. I wrote a little of that on my blog:

    My maternal grandmother had Swedish blood. As Norwegians are closely related to Swedes there’s not a lot of difference between them. But the family of my Norwegian grandfather migrated from Finland to Hammerfest in the far North of Norway in the middle of the 19th century. Judging by some of the strange names they had, I can well believe they might have been part Sami. The Sami – or Lapps, as they don’t like to be called – are the nomadic tribes who have traversed the lands stretching from the north of Russia across Finland and Sweden and into Norway with their herds of reindeer for thousands of years. When I was travelling in the region I could see my features in some of the faces. I now live in Spain with my German partner. She sees the same in some photos of Sami people.

    I don’t see myself as belonging to any single nation or people, for that matter, and feel all the better for it. It’s doubtful there would’ve been so many wars if there weren’t so many borders.

    And then there’s religion, of course …

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  4. You have the same thing going for you that I do: our physical features could be from many, many places. In most countries I’ve visited, at some point people spoke to me in the native language presuming I might be a native. Spain, France, Italy, Mexico, Brazil, Argentina, Ireland, Egypt, Israel, Iran… We could be from any of those countries. Use it to your advantage. When people feel you’re part of their tribe, they welcome you.

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